Facing Life in the reality of Truth

The one thing that I keep running into when facing hardships, heartaches, disappointments, etc. is the advice "think Positive" or "it could be worse" these two statements tick me off more than any other two statements in the whole human vocabulary. why?

Let me ask you this if you had just been thru a traumatic experience say for instance a loved one died or losing your house, or you are battling severe health problems do you think the above two statements would be of any comfort to you? It may seem rational yet honestly do you think that just by thinking Positive your problems are going to disappear .. I mean yea sure thinking positive feels great but does it solve the problems?? No it doesn't and truth is in this life we have to work thru such traumatic experiences..

What if the situation was that of an abuse? Whether it is physical, mental, spiritual, sexual, verbal abuse it takes a toll on an individual that often is not seen.

I see two philosophies converging on the horizon of modern philosophy and neither one really does anyone any good instead in the long run it devastates a person far beyond what they already have dealt with.. these philosophies are not foreign but it is the whole think positive therapy that i keep seeing ..

What it is teaching people is how to live in denial .. thinking positive should never be the main foundation of overcoming instead it is only a by product of the choice to face the problem or problems head on .. we have to know how to work thru problems not avoid them for by avoiding them we create more problems and eventually we have dug ourselves into a hole we cant get out of.

Things happen in life that causes hurt, pain, and grief these are all real feelings that need to be dealt with not white washed with fake hope .. the only way to deal with such is to work thru it & the way to work thru it is beginning with the truth.. positivity has its place but never solves anything on its own.. truth isn't always going to give us a "positive" feeling or "positive" outcome. Sometimes truth is hard to deal with and sometimes the outcome is not going to be the way we think or plan it to be.. it doesn't mean that it isn't going to work for our good just that well we have to accept reality as it is ..

A good foundation on recovering is to build it on truth. There is no other solid foundation other than truth. I have noticed how many label truth as being negative this is an unrealistic approach to the situation. Truth isn't always going to be rainbows and butterflies sometimes it is the most devastating thing to deal with. But nevertheless truth will set you free in many ways.

The whole spectrum of positive vs negative doesn't need to be the main focus in any situation however the main focus should be dealt with in reality of the situation. Along with this reality there is various emotions and we must deal with these emotions as they come. Dealing with emotions in truth allows us to heal and it allows us to be "Human" ..

Lately I have been having to deal with a lot of reality and quiet frankly it has been very hard. I am at a stand still within myself and even though I am at this stand still and every bit of my emotions are in chaos yet I haven't given up all hope I am in the process of seeking professional help. And that is no easy thing to admit but it is true that I am having problems dealing with certain issues. I don't like feeling angry, devastated/disheartened, and hurt but I know there is a reason for this and I am not going to discount my feelings. Instead I am trying to deal with them as much as i can its just I am in over my head on many things and I do need help. Personally I dont think it is weak to seek help for it takes great strength to do so.